Relationship - Whose who is who !!! -- PART - II

Getting with the part I ideologies of relationship I have changed the meaning of SUMMARY by broadening its view which the English dictionary wont accept as summary anyhow. I tried summarizing relationship and its type or kind in previous post but this time around will get through with my real time experiences and or examples.

Consider our Indian culture giving wide range of relations in a family itself. Its so long so wide that I see parents taking tests of their children of "who's who" in relatives until candles burn out. Instead of remembering this big hierarchical relations of relatives I would prefer Engineering Studied twice. :). Due to Indias diversely cultured nature we find largely scattered communities on the basis of rituals or beliefs giving rise to different religions and castes. Now what this has done is there is a strong relationship or bonding internally between these cultural divisions creating many relations. This provides a great significance to any relationship in our country.

That was more of a broader view but going deep into our bodies we find our body parts inter-related with each other. Now they too follow relationship patterns. Too heavy to digest but this is biological relationship... lol. Now please don't imagine body to soul or soul to body, mind to heart, body cell to body tissue, hair to skull or eyes to lips and lips to ... relationships ( Boys limit your imagination ).

Serials these days are creating lot of nuisance. I somehow unwillingly managed to watch few of them and found out how negatively they are addressing people about relationships. Each relation has negative shade someway or other. No doubt all women sitting around are taking these negatives to good extent . If I start on serials I will surely get distracted.

Thinking of A long distance relationship which I am in..., its very tough trust me. You need to be strong to go for a long distance relationship, its hard and impatient. It makes out how hard wired you are... Stop thinking of me, I am alright ;) .

Few years back, I had a friend from Chandigarh my first chat friend. We used to chat daily on internet (tried not mentioning that I spent Rs. 25 - 50 daily at that time in cafes). As time passed we built a good relation being good friends. We used to call each other on landline (too expensive). We shared each and everything we had in mind. Never met her and never saw her but we maintained a very trustful relationship. Now this was nice till the time I got a call from her very new boyfriend. He was nice with me but I felt his urge of "Please don't call her I m feeling jealous!!!" and thought of not calling her. Since then we are not in touch. But for that time period the relation was nice and sweet. If I get a chance I would like to meet her someday. Now this relation was a stranger relation for me or for her but was pure.

Few days back I got a call from one of my friend. I was in thoughts of what relationship means. To clear up my throat I asked her...
" What do you think relationship is to you? "
" Relationship is Bullshit ", She reacted immediately with a sense of depression I guess.
" And why do you think it is so? ", I asked after getting a shocking feedback from her for my previous sweet thoughts running about relationship.
" I don't know what is relationship for others but for me its like getting bored with same things going around, commitment taken for granted and things done only for self satisfaction at times... Overall it stinks... ", She said creating a long pause of 6 secs between talks.
This conversation was interesting. Maybe it can be a true life situation for someone... Maybe only depression.

After the above conversation I thought Love in a relation can turn relationship to extremes when faith, expectation or ego part being distracted or hurt. Perhaps love being above all, the contrasting nature of human relations occur in and out.

There are many new evolving relationships these days. Same sex couples getting into courtships and marriages (sounds weird to me but is a fact) is one of its kind. Live-in relationship is another kind and interesting (Boys won't stop dreaming as usual...).

Connecting virtues of faith, belief, good attitude, attachment, emotions, character and lastly the need builds a strong and healthy relationship. Have you ever heard of an healthy relationship? Here it is, it means a relation that is blessed with faith and space. Now you must be hunting around the big jungle of relations whether which one is perfectly healthy and which isn't...

Why are we dependent on relationships? Is it emotional attachment or just a need? Everyone has to personally look into it.

TanY.